When you’re pregnant, you may find yourself having lots of emotions-from fear to excitement to frustration. Pregnant women are regularly commented at, given advice, or asked questions that are ignorant. Some people don’t seem to think before they say things, and ask rude questions and say whatever comments come to their mind!
There are some comments that should never be told to a pregnant woman and there are questions that shouldn’t be asked.
Here’s our list of 10 items that people should never say to a pregnant woman:
- “Are you having twins?” or “I don’t think you’ll make it to your due date.”
Comments and questions like these hint that a pregnant woman looks huge. Since she may already feel huge, telling her is not only unnecessary but rude.
- “Enjoy your last few months of Independence.”
Most mothers-to-be have already accepted the fact that her freedom will change once her baby is born. Lines like this seem to be said as a scare-tactic. People shouldn’t be holding a pregnant woman back, as most mothers-to-be are excited about the arrival of their little one.
- “Get extra sleep, because you’ll never sleep again.”
Again, most pregnant women already know that their sleep will be interrupted a lot by a newborn.
- “You look exhausted.”
When people say things like this to a pregnant woman, it makes her think “I must look awful!” Pregnant women often have a hard time getting comfortable in bed, and wake up several times during the night as a result. So truthfully, she is probably tired, but you should keep your thought to yourself.
- “Anything yet?”
When her due date gets closer, mothers-to-be get tons of texts, phone calls, and Facebook messages asking about her status. People will ask her if she’s noticing any signs of labor. But, it’s best to let the parents have their privacy as the due date approaches.
- “I feel pregnant too!”
It’s never OK to tell a pregnant women that you feel pregnant too. It’s really annoying to be “in the thick” of your pregnancy and be told this.
- “You must feel miserable.”
A pregnant woman is often uncomfortable during pregnancy; she may have morning sickness, heartburn, or a foot in her rib. So, try to use another word when talking about her obvious discomfort. Better still, don’t say anything about it at all.
- “Was your pregnancy planned?”
The woman is pregnant with a bundle of joy, and that’s all anyone needs to know. If it was planned or unplanned is inappropriate to ask.
- “I think you’re having a boy/girl!”
People seem to think they’re professionals at determining the baby’s gender, whether it’s by how a pregnant woman is carrying or what foods she craves. Hearing this is pretty annoying to a pregnant woman, though. It’s best to leave the gender detection to the doctor.
- “Your body will never be the same again.”
This is true: the woman may lose the pregnancy pounds and have not gotten stretch marks, but her body will always have some reminder of the baby she once had within her. But, it’s really rude to say thing like this; they seem to dishonor the miracle of pregnancy and childbirth.
Feel free to share this list of things to never say to a pregnant woman with other pregnant women (or maybe even people who need a little hint about what NOT to say!) It’s important that they let you enjoy the moments of pregnancy, and give encouragement and support only.