Mother with baby wondering about lifting during pregnancyQuestion: Should I avoid picking up my two-year-old son now that I’m pregnant again? He’s pretty heavy.

: Unless your healthcare practitioner has advised against it, carrying reasonably heavy loads is okay, but you should stay away from exerting yourself to the point of fatigue. As your pregnancy develops, your back may not be able to handle carrying both a fetus and a toddler. In that case, make sure that you keep the lifting to a minimum. Also, to avoid any feelings of rivalry or resentment your toddler may feel towards your baby, make sure to blame your back (not the baby) for your slowdown in picking him up.