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What Should I Do If I’m Pregnant and Alone?

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How to Cope When Your Baby’s Father Has Ghosted You

Young woman looks out her window, pregnant and alone“I’m 22 weeks pregnant and just found out I’m having a girl! But my baby’s father wants nothing to do with me and our daughter. He wants me to get an abortion. After telling me that, he ghosted me and has blocked me on everything. So I can’t contact him. What should I do? Is there I way I can get financial support from him? I feel so alone and I’m not sure what to do right now.”
-Madison
 
No matter if your pregnancy was planned or not, it takes two people to make a baby. The two of you were supposed to be in this together, so it’s normal to feel betrayed and rejected when you don’t have support from the one person you need it from the most. Even though it’s totally unfair that the weight of this situation falls on your shoulders only, you’re not alone. You still have control of your future.
 

Give Him Some Time

People’s first reactions to stressful news aren’t always their finest moments, so try to give your baby’s father some time to come around. He might have just had a knee-jerk reaction to the life-changing news of your pregnancy. He could be thinking about any variety of things, like:
 
I never planned to have kids.
I’m not ready to be a father.
What will people think of me?
 
After taking the time to process and imagine a different life path, he may come around and give you support. Pressuring him won’t do any good right now. For now, try to keep your mind on what’s best for you and your baby.
 

Don’t Let Anyone Pressure You

This is your life, your body, and your choice.
 
Don’t let your baby’s father pressure you into having an abortion. The decision to get an abortion is a permanent one, and you might regret it for the rest of your life if it’s not what you truly want. Only you can decide what will be best for you and your baby. This is your future, and you do have choices!
 

Becoming a Single Parent

While thinking about becoming a parent, try to envision what being a single parent would be like Maybe your baby’s father will come around, but right now, you can’t make plans based on him. Is the life of a single mom something you can take on both emotionally and financially?
 
Support through services like WIC and Medicaid can help relieve the financial stress of being a single parent.
 
A court cannot force your baby’s father to have a relationship with his child, but they can require he provide financial assistance. Your baby’s father will be required to pay child support.
 
You’ll need your baby’s father to agree to a paternity test to collect child support from him. If he refuses to cooperate, you can file a civil lawsuit to determine paternity. The paternity test can even be done before the baby is born in some cases. As paternity laws differ depending on your state, you should consult with a family law attorney.
 

Exploring Adoption

If you can’t raise your child on your own, adoption may be the right choice for you. You have complete control over the whole process in today’s open adoptions.
 
Lifetime Adoption is a nationwide adoption agency that provides expectant mothers with caring support and guidance during every step of the process. You’re in charge of your adoption plans. With Lifetime’s proven expertise in open adoption, they can help you find the perfect family for your child.
 
The compassionate adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption will help you every step of the way. You will be able to:

  • Browse online profiles of adoptive families
  • Get counseling and support
  • Get to know the adoptive family before decide if they’re the right parents for your baby
  • Decide how much contact you’d like to keep with your child throughout his life.
  • Get updates about your child as he or she grows up

Can I Do Adoption if My Baby’s Father Isn’t Involved?

Ordinarily, adoption requires both parents’ consent. There are some situations where adoption can be done without the father’s consent. Adoption laws vary in every state. So depending on where you live, you may not need his permission if:

  • He is a convicted felon.
  • He is abusive.
  • He is currently in jail.
  • He is coping with drug addiction.
  • He can’t be located.

The best scenario for an adoption process is to get the father’s written consent. An adoption professional or an adoption attorney can assist you with this.
 
Your baby’s father could object to the adoption, but that usually happens when he wants custody of his child. If your baby’s father can’t show that he’ll be able to support the child properly or doesn’t provide support during your pregnancy, he can be denied the right to object to the adoption.
 

Making a Decision That’s Right for You

In the event that your baby’s father changes his mind about being a part of his child’s life, you can begin making these plans together. But for the time being, concentrate on what’s best for you and your baby.
 
Your baby has created a connection between the both of you that could last for the next 18 years. However, you’re still in control of what that relationship will look like. You must make the best choices for your health and happiness and your baby’s future too. Let the adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption provide you with support and non-judgmental guidance.
 

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784, anytime. You can also contact Lifetime for free adoption information.

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What I Wish I Knew Before Taking the Plan B Pill

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Sarah’s Story

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, this might be the most stressful and confusing time in your life. For whatever reason, you know that you are not in a place to parent a child, so you have a seemingly impossible decision to make. Is abortion or adoption the right choice for you?
 
I was in this position one year ago. I made a mistake, and my birth control plan failed. My boyfriend and I were in a committed relationship, but we had not planned on having kids ’til much further down the road. The idea that my entire future could change after a single night left me feeling desperate and alone.
 
In my panic, I opted for the popular emergency contraception pill, Plan B. While I would not call this choice easy, I can say that it was convenient – over the counter at my local pharmacy. At the time I took the pill, I thought I was making the right choice. I made the decision quickly, without really considering any other options. I wish someone had prepared me for the physical and emotional aftermath of my decision. I wish I had taken the time to research all of my other options. My rash action made under extreme stress has left me with feelings of regret and wondering, “what if” even a year later.
 
You are the only one who can decide the right path after an unplanned pregnancy. But to find your way, you need to know about your options. What are the “abortion pill” and Plan B? How might adoption provide you with a different opportunity? The adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption are here to guide you through your options so you can make an informed decision that is best for you. I want to share some info I wish I’d had.
 

The Abortion Pill and Plan B

The abortion pill (mifepristone and misoprostol) will terminate a pregnancy if taken within ten weeks of a woman’s last menstrual period. Unlike the abortion pill, Plan B (levonorgestrel) will not terminate a pregnancy. Plan B is a female hormone that causes changes to the cervix, making it harder for the egg to be fertilized and implant in the uterus. It is not 100% effective, and its effectiveness decreases the longer you wait after sex (within 72 hours). Healthcare professionals recommend that women visit their doctor within three weeks of using Plan B to confirm they are not pregnant and that the hormones have not caused any harmful side effects.
 
Plan B pills on pharmacy counter with colorful pills strips in backgroundWhile Plan B is relatively safe for most women to use, there are both physical and emotional side effects. Plan B comes with warnings such as:

  • Nausea
  • Headaches
  • Dizziness
  • Abdominal pain and cramping
  • Breast tenderness
  • Bleeding

All of these side effects are listed in the literature for Plan B, but I did not realize how intensely they would impact me. It felt like having my period, a hangover, and bad stomach flu all rolled into one. My symptoms were severe enough to keep me home from work the next day. In addition to the physical repercussions, I felt a dark cloud of despair for the next 24 hours.
 
I’ve learned that many women report feelings of depression and regret after taking Plan B. Options like Plan B and the abortion pill are time-sensitive. Because of the time constrictions with these options, women make this decision under pressure, and possibly without enough information.
 
While the idea of Plan B might relieve anxiety about an unplanned pregnancy, our emotions are more complicated than that. Our bodies enter the fight or flight mode when we are under stress, so the decisions we make under these conditions may leave us feeling regretful. It is common for women to feel regret after taking Plan B or the abortion pill, even if they were sure about their decision at the time. The regret doesn’t go away, sadly.
 

What I Wish I Knew About Adoption

Abortions are becoming increasingly common. In the United States, there are significantly more abortions than there are infant adoptions.
 
Why are more women choosing abortion over adoption when faced with an unplanned pregnancy? One reason is the lack of information about adoption. Some women feel that carrying through with an unplanned pregnancy will be too expensive. They don’t realize that they can receive financial and emotional support throughout the entire adoption process. There is no cost to you.
 
They also fear that giving up their baby will hurt too much, and they will spend their lives wondering if their child is safe. They worry their child will grow up, resenting them for the choice they made. The reality is that there are more loving families looking to adopt than there are available infants, and the option of an open adoption plan will alleviate many of the birth mother’s fears.
 
If your heart is open to adoption as a path for your unplanned pregnancy, the adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption can show you how adoption may lead to a fulfilling and loving future for you and your baby.
 

Here are five reasons why you might consider adoption over abortion:

1. Abortion is Permanent

Whether it is Plan B, the abortion pill, or any other abortion option, this choice is final. If you have any reservations about terminating your pregnancy, this is probably not the right choice for you.
 
The abortion pill can be taken up to 70 days (or 10 weeks) after conception. On day 1 of conception, the fertilized egg has every detail of how that baby will develop – eye color, height, sex, etc., by week 4 the heart is beating, brain waves can be detected at week 6, and by week 9 the baby’s organs are working, and the body is almost complete. From day one, your baby is growing in leaps and bounds. Your body is going through many hormonal changes as well, and it is important not to act rashly. This is when you need to take time to explore your options.
 
When you open yourself to adoption, you are rewarded with time to educate yourself so that you can make the best decisions for you and your baby. You have options about the type of adoption plan you pursue, and you even have the right to change your mind if you decide to parent your baby yourself. Adoption affords you the flexibility to explore your emotions and the time to make decisions with confidence. It’s a short time with lifelong benefits to many.
 
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2. Open Adoptions Eliminate Fear of the Unknown

The thought of giving their baby to strangers and forever wondering is simply too much for some women to bear. Thankfully, this is no longer what adoption needs to look like. Today you can meet and build a relationship with the adoptive parents.
 
When you pursue an open adoption, you select the adoptive parents with support and guidance from your adoption professional. You may have the opportunity to get to know the adoptive parents and build a relationship before the baby even arrives.
 
After your baby’s birth, you decide how much contact you wish to have with your child and her adoptive parents. You may be content with periodic updates, or you may desire a closer relationship through consistent phone calls, texts, and visits if you decide.
 
Some adoptive parents live states away, others within driving distance. Either way, you can rest assured that your baby is safe and loved. Adoptive parents have extensive background checks done. Your baby will grow up knowing who you are, and the sacrifice you made for her.
 

3. Adoption Gives Purpose to an Unplanned Pregnancy

By choosing adoption, you are turning a difficult situation into a dream come true for a hopeful adoptive family. While you may not be at a point in your life where you can parent a child, your baby may be meant to fulfill another family. This blessing is the greatest gift you can offer couples hoping to adopt.
 

4. Adoption Gives You Control Over Your Life

An unplanned pregnancy may have you feeling like you are no longer in the driver’s seat. You had a plan for your life, but that plan has unexpectedly veered off course only temporarily.
 
Choosing adoption can help you regain some of that control. You can choose adoption at any point in your pregnancy, and even after your baby is born. In an open adoption, you select the adoptive family that will love and care for your baby. You make the plan for who will be with you when your baby is born, and how things will go at the hospital. You decide how much contact you will have with your child. You are not rushed to make these decisions, so you can feel confident that you are doing what is best for you and your baby. You can even speak to other birth mothers for support.
 

5. You’re Supported Throughout the Adoption Process

Young smiling pregnant woman typing on laptop while communicating over phoneThere are no easy choices when facing an unplanned pregnancy. Both abortion and adoption are complicated and emotional, but only adoption offers you financial and emotional support throughout the process.
 
Through Lifetime Adoption, birth mothers have access to counseling while pregnant, as well as after the baby is born. Birth mothers may also be able to receive some financial support. They do not need to worry about medical costs, and they may also receive assistance for living expenses such as rent, groceries, and transportation.
 

You Are Not Alone

Choosing a path for your unplanned pregnancy is a big decision. Unplanned pregnancy options like Plan B or the abortion pill may seem like a quick fix with the fewest repercussions, but my experience has taught me otherwise. I will always wonder if I would have made a different decision had I been given the time and resources to understand all of my options. I believe I would have chosen adoption.
 
This is not a decision you should make out of fear or because you feel pressured. You do have options, and you are not alone.
 

The adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption want to help you explore your options so you can determine the right choice for your future. Call or text Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

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What’s It Like To Be In College and Pregnant?

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Pregnant college studentPicture getting ready for an 8 am class after being up most of the night with a crying baby. When you’re done with classes, you go to work for eight hours. Once you get off work, you rush to pick up your baby from daycare. Then, you go home and start this process all over again.
 
In the scenario described here, you’re not really raising your baby. The childcare provider is doing most of the nurturing and caring for your child.
 
There are few parenting situations more difficult than caring for a baby with no support while trying to finish college. Raising a child on your own is a full-time job, on top of your course load.
 
Statistics show that many women who get pregnant in college and decide to parent their child end up quitting school. Many of these mothers grow dependent on welfare programs to help raise their child. The cycle of poverty stays at her door because it’s hard to make much money without a college education.
 
If you’re pregnant and in college, this scenario may seem incredibly depressing. It can come as a big shock when only a short time ago you were living a life of freedom and had your future all planned out.
 
Of course, you’ll want to do what’s best for you and your baby. How can you provide the best life for your child while remaining in college?
 
You have choices that will empower you to set your world right and do the best thing you can do for your child. Maybe you haven’t thought about the choice of adoption yet, but now may be a good time to consider it.
 
With open adoption, you can select the adoptive parents who will raise your child. You’ll have the opportunity to choose the type of home your child will grow up in. You can even stay in touch with your child as he or she grows up. The adoptive parents will send you updates through letters, emails, photos, and even occasional visits.
 
By making an adoption plan, you’ll be able to finish your education and better your life. Plus, you can provide your child with a mom and dad who will provide a stable and loving home. You can live your life secure in the knowledge that your child is in the best possible home that you could provide.
 

You can learn more about adoption by calling or texting
Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.

Visit their website at LifetimeAdoption.com to view hopeful adoptive family profiles, read women’s adoption stories, and more!

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When Is It Too Late To Do Adoption?

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Mother holding one-year-old daughter“I’ve really been struggling to make ends meet for the last year. I work long hours so I can make enough to pay for daycare. All my bills are past due and I’m going to get kicked out of my apartment soon.
 
This isn’t how I pictured life to be for my daughter. I want better for her than being shuffled to and from daycare, and barely seeing her.
 
It’s so hard to even think of adopting her out, it’s also hard to think of what could happen if I don’t. Is it too late to do adoption?”
 
It’s never too late to make an adoption plan for your child. Many women have parented before choosing adoption. You can manage the whole adoption planning process, including when you’re ready to start. Adoption is always a choice that you can make, no matter if your child is weeks, months, or years old. Women choosing adoption later on for their child have the same rights and choices as a pregnant woman making an adoption plan, including:

  • Planning an adoption that fits your goals for your child’s future
  • Selecting the perfect adoptive parents for your child
  • Choosing how much contact you’d like to have with the adoptive family before and after the adoption
  • Receiving the resources, support, and services you need.
  • Remaining a part of your child’s life through open adoption visits, emails, photos, and updates
  • Deciding when you’re ready to sign the adoption paperwork.

 
You can move through the adoption process at your own speed. We can refer you to an adoption professional called Lifetime Adoption who works nationwide. They’ve helped hundreds of women who chose adoption for their older child. Know that Lifetime won’t try to pressure you into a decision you’re not OK with.
 

There’s no deadline to do what’s best your child, and no “wrong time”
to start thinking about adoption.
 
Contact Lifetime Adoption to learn more about your adoption choices and how to move forward. Give Lifetime a call or text them at 1-800-923-6784.

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“Should I Put My Baby Up for Adoption?”

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Pregnant woman wonders, 'should I adopt out my baby?'If you’ve just started to research the process of adoption for your baby, you might feel overwhelmed by the amount of information out there. Luckily, you’re not alone. With some guidance, you’ll be able to decide what’s best for you and your baby.
 
Today, we’re describing the steps to take as you decide if adoption’s best for your baby:
 

1. Visit a Doctor

As soon as you think that you’re pregnant, visit your doctor or OB/GYN to make sure. They can also help you learn how your pregnancy is doing. Whether or not you choose adoption, you should start by caring for yourself and your baby.
 
The first few months of pregnancy are really important to your baby’s development. Since your body will be changing a lot, it’s essential that you start to take care of yourself as soon as possible. Your doctor will provide you with detailed instructions on how to care for yourself and your baby during your pregnancy.
 

2. Contact an Adoption Professional

Understanding how adoption works will be the first step in your decision-making process. An adoption professional will provide you with information, help you create a plan, and ask you what your needs are during your pregnancy. If you’re still on the fence about adoption, an adoption professional can provide you with all the information you need to make a decision. Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to learn more.
 

3. Create an Adoption Plan

Your Adoption Coordinator will explain all of your options, and help you decide how you’d like your adoption to go. They’ll help you plan your labor and delivery experience, your hospital stay, and direct you to programs if you need help with medical costs and living expenses. Your adoption professional will get your medical history, the medical history of your baby’s father, and ask you questions about what you’re hoping for in adoption. At Lifetime Adoption, you’re able to receive both third-party counseling and peer counseling.
 

4. Choose Your Style of Adoption

There are three different styles of relationships you can have with the adoptive family: open, semi-open and closed. You have the choice to decide the type and amount of contact you’d like to have with them after you place your baby in their home. Some women decide that updates through pictures and emails once a year is enough, but others choose more contact through annual in-person visits. The style of adoption relationship you’ll have with your child and his or her adoptive family is up to you.
 
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5. Select Your Baby’s Adoptive Parents

Many pregnant women making an adoption plan appreciate having the power to choose the couple who will raise their child. The adoption professional will send you information about adoptive families, including their careers, faith, hobbies, parenting style, and enthusiasm to become parents through adoption.
 
You can even start looking at potential adoptive parents online at any time! Visit LifetimeAdoption.com/find-a-family to see hopeful adoptive parents’ profiles online.
 
Once you see an adoptive family that “clicks” with you, we encourage you to have a phone conversation with them. During the call, you can get to know the couple better and let them know your wishes for the adoption process. Feel free to discuss any questions, thoughts or concerns you may have.
 

6. Welcome Your Baby

Before you give birth, your Adoption Coordinator will encourage you to think about how you want your birth plan to go. Once you go into labor, notify your adoption professional right away. They’ll contact the adoptive family you’ve chosen.
 
After you deliver, you have the right to spend as much time as you need to with your baby. You’ll likely be allowed to leave the hospital within 72 hours. Depending on your state, you might even sign relinquishment papers before you go.
 

7. Preparing for Life After Placement

Most women find that they need counseling after placement since adoption is a lifelong choice. Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help you work through your feelings and prepare you for the many emotions you’ll face.
 
Getting in touch with other mothers who chose adoption for their baby has helped many women. Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will put you in contact with other women who have been in your shoes. Since they’ve also placed, a peer counselor can let you know what to expect and provide you with helpful tips.
 
If you chose an open adoption relationship, you’ll also have the adoptive family’s support and be able to see your child grow up. With open adoption, placement isn’t a “good-bye” forever, but the start of a beautiful relationship between you, your child, and the family you chose.
 
 
Are you thinking about adoption for your baby? Call or text Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784. Requesting info on adoption or browsing profiles doesn’t mean you have to complete the adoption process.

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Abortion vs. Adoption, Which is Right for You?

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Woman weighs her choices of abortion vs. adoptionIf you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and aren’t sure whether you’re ready to become a parent, you’re probably struggling with the next step. We believe that it’s important for you to be well-informed about your choices so that you can make the best decision for you. So in this article, we’re going over abortion vs. adoption as your pregnancy choices.

It can be challenging to decide what to do after you find out you’re pregnant. Both adoption and abortion are options for women who aren’t ready to become a mom, and they both come with different challenges.

What About Adoption?
In today’s adoptions, most women choose to have contact with their child and the adoptive family, and they get updates regularly. There’s no cost for you to choose adoption, and you may have access to free counseling and help with your living expenses.

It’s never too late in your pregnancy to decide on adoption, no matter if you’re just a few weeks along or are in the delivery room. You can begin creating an adoption plan that works for you, whatever your time frame is.

You can choose the adoptive family based on the kind of life you want for your baby. By working with a professional like Lifetime Adoption, you’re able to view adoptive family profiles online until you find a good fit. Once you choose to “match” with an adoptive family, you can begin getting to know them and decide on the details of your adoption plan.

Your adoption decision isn’t final until you legally consent to the adoption, which usually happens 24-72 hours after the birth of your baby. Read about the options you have with modern adoption.

What About Abortion?
Most of the time, abortions are done during the first trimester. The costs of abortion can range from $500-$2000, depending on several factors.

You might have to inform your parents or get counseling before having the procedure done, and might also have a waiting period. It’s recommended to make this decision early in your pregnancy since the procedure can become more complicated if you’re further along than 14 weeks.

The procedure can be done through surgery or medication, depending on your health and how far you are. With either surgery or medication, your risk of having medical complications is pretty low. However, it increases for later abortions. A few of the medical complications of abortion include inflammation, bleeding, infection, and damage to your cervix or surrounding organs. Take some time to learn the facts of abortion.

By learning more about your pregnancy choices, you’ll be able to make an educated decision.

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“I’m Not Thrilled To Be Pregnant…”

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I'm not thrilled to be pregnant...what should i do?!“Ten days ago, I found out I’m pregnant. It had been five weeks since I’d had my period. I had this nagging feeling when I bought that test that it’d come up positive. But, I’m not thrilled to be pregnant…

I walked into the living room, and my boyfriend paused the video game he was playing. I announced that the pregnancy test turned out positive. We then just sat in silence on the sofa together, not knowing what to say. To say this wasn’t the right time would be an understatement. I’m still going to school full-time, and my boyfriend is between jobs.

We didn’t mention the pregnancy until a couple of days later. We were both acting like the test was wrong. I told myself that since I didn’t take it first thing in the morning when my hormones were high, maybe it didn’t count.

Days went by, and the realization started to sink in: we were going to be parents. Since having that realization, I’ve been crying every day. Crying during everyday moments, like brushing my teeth or getting on the bus to work. And not happy tears either; ugly crocodile tears, that I couldn’t wipe away fast enough before more came.

I needed to talk to someone about this. I wanted someone to reassure me that everything would be okay. So I called my best friend, who always seems to know what to say. She asked me, ‘Are you so excited?’ I broke down in tears, and let her know that no, I’m not excited. I’m angry. I’m scared. Basically everything but excited.

‘I’m not thrilled to be pregnant. I don’t know if I want this baby. I should get it taken care of. How can I bring a child into the world when I feel this way?’

And then, when I felt so low, my friend offered another option besides abortion. Her loving and compassionate suggestion was adoption. OK, so my boyfriend and I totally weren’t ready to become a dad and mom. But there were thousands of couples that were, couples who couldn’t have a baby of their own. They wanted desperately to adopt so that they could become parents. That’s when I started to explore adoption…”

If you’re not ready to be a mom and don’t want to get an abortion either, there is a third choice: adoption. We encourage you to check out LifetimeAdoption.com if you’d like to learn more about this pregnancy choice.

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How an Unplanned Pregnancy Can Change Your Life

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Have you ever wondered how becoming a mom will change your life? It’s crazy how much things change when you have a baby. And it can be even crazier if your pregnancy was unplanned and you’re not ready for this huge change.

Going to School Will Be Tough
Becoming a mom when you aren’t ready makes continuing your education really difficult. Since babies obviously can’t just be left on their own, you’d need to decide who can watch your baby while you’re in class.

If your parents are willing to help out, then that’s great. But, this might put stress on your relationship. Daycare is expensive, so money will be tight if you’re going to school while trying to pay for daycare and babysitters.

Career Plans on Hold
An unplanned pregnancy can get in the way of your career. If you’re climbing the ladder of success, it might feel disappointing to have to miss work and stay at home caring for your baby.

You’ll probably be very tired at work and then stressed out once you get home. After all, there are only so many hours in the day! If you don’t have support at home from the baby’s father or family members, then you’ll be responsible for a lot.

Way Less “Me Time”
Right now, you might feel like babies are just cute, tiny versions of adults. But ask any mom and they’ll tell you that babies are tiny dictators who take every ounce of your energy.

“It always seems like he gets hungry as soon as I sit down to eat. And long, relaxing showers were a thing of the past for the first few months. There just wasn’t any ‘me time’ between all the feeding, burping, rocking, and changing his diapers!” shares one mom, Jessica. Right now, you only have to think about yourself. If you become a mom from an unplanned pregnancy, you might get bitter that your ‘me time’ disappears.

Losing Sleep
You’d lose sleep in the early months, no matter if your pregnancy was planned or not. Moms of newborns don’t get to sleep much because most babies just don’t sleep for long stretches. It can be difficult for new moms to get used to waking up at all hours of the night.

All this can be super-overwhelming, especially if you didn’t plan on becoming a mom. You might feel a little resentful of being so tired if you didn’t plan for this change.

Money Will Be Tight
Babies get expensive. There are lots of little expenses that add up, like diaper cream and baby wipes. Oh, and lots and lots of diapers!

Be prepared for money to be tight, especially if you need to take time off work or if you have to pay for childcare when you start working again.

Relationships Will Change
An unplanned pregnancy puts a strain on a new relationship with a boyfriend or husband, especially if he wasn’t ready to become a dad.

Your friends might be supportive now, during your pregnancy but later distance themselves after you have your baby. This is especially true if they don’t have kids yet and are still out partying. They might not understand that you don’t have time to spend with them like you used to.

It’s smart to think about these things when you find out you’re pregnant. If you’re worried about how an unplanned pregnancy might change your life and want to talk to someone, you can connect with Lifetime Adoption at
1-800-923-6784 and have a private convo. The pregnancy coordinator you talk to can help you answer questions about your choices and give you resources for finding out more about adoption if you’d like.

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How an Unplanned Pregnancy Could Change Your Life

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Learn how an unplanned pregnancy changes your lifeHave you ever thought about how having a baby might change your life? It’s a little crazy how much things change when you have a baby. And, if you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, it can be extra crazy. Not everybody in your life will be ready for this huge change.

An Education Is Difficult
Having a baby before you’re ready makes going to school very hard. Caring for a baby takes up a lot of time, and they obviously can’t just be left on their own. So, you’d need to figure out who will care for your baby while you’re at class.

If your parents are around to help out, that’s great. But, relying on a parent puts a strain on your relationship. Daycare is expensive, so if you’re going to school and paying for daycare, expect money to be very tight.

Your Career Plans May Be Paused
An unplanned pregnancy can be a real obstacle to your career goals. If you’re climbing the corporate ladder, you may feel disappointed when you have to stay home with the baby when you’d rather be working.

Expect that you will be more tired at work, and more stressed out at home. There are only so many hours in the day, and if you don’t have enough support at home from either family members or the baby’s father, then you’ll be taking care of a lot of responsibilities on your own.

There Will Be Less “Me Time”
Before becoming a mom, you might have felt like babies were just cute, tiny people. But any parent will tell you that babies will devour every bit of energy you have and rule your life.

It seems like babies always get hungry the second you sit down to eat. And slow, relaxed showers are ruled out for the first few months. There isn’t any time for yourself with all the rocking, feeding, burping, and changing diapers. Right now you’re the only person you have to be concerned about. If you end up parenting after an unplanned pregnancy, you may be bitter about having your “me time” taken away.

You’ll Lose Sleep
You will get less sleep, no matter if your pregnancy was planned or not. Most newborns don’t sleep for long stretches of time, and it’s hard to get used to being woken up all night.

So, be prepared for less sleep. It may make you feel overwhelmed (and maybe a little annoyed) of being so tired, especially if you didn’t plan on this pregnancy.

Money Will Be Tight
Buying everything that a baby needs is expensive. Think about all the baby gear, strollers, slings, baby wipes, diaper cream, bottles, and diapers you’ll need.

Money might not be as tight if your family is supportive. But you need to be ready for money to be tighter, particularly if you’re taking time off work or paying for childcare.

Relationships Will Change
Your relationships with friends and family might change in ways you don’t like, or it may change for the better. Unplanned pregnancies typically don’t bring families closer together.

If you’re in a new relationship with a boyfriend or husband, this unplanned pregnancy can put stress on it. Maybe he wasn’t ready to be a dad just yet. That can bring up a lot of difficult emotions that aren’t easy to talk about.

It might seem like your pregnancy is none of your family member’s business, but they might think it. Your parents might have strong opinions on your pregnancy and pressure you to make a decision you wouldn’t normally make.

Friends that are supportive during your pregnancy might distance themselves after you deliver. This is especially true when they don’t have children of their own. Since becoming a parent changes your life in so drastically, they won’t understand why you don’t have time to spend with them anymore.

It’s helpful to think about all of these things when you find out you’re pregnant by accident. If you’re stressing over how this unplanned will might affect your life, talking with someone about your situation helps. You can connect with Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 and have a private one-on-one talk with a pregnancy coordinator. She’ll answer any questions you might have about your options and give you resources for finding more info.

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Positive Pregnancy Test…is Abortion is the Right Choice for You?

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Positive pregnancy testHaving a missed period is one of the worst scares you can get when you’re not ready to be a mom. You’re probably eyeing your calendar, counting the days, and hoping your fear of being pregnant is just irrational and your period will arrive.

Before you freak out, make sure that you are in fact pregnant. A late period can be caused by a variety of things, like stress, weather change, or losing lots of weight. Every missed period doesn’t mean you’re pregnant. But if you’ve been expecting your period for a few weeks now and it hasn’t arrived, then it’s time to take action. Buy two or three pregnancy tests so you can test a few times. It’s more likely to be accurate if you test in the morning.

If your pregnancy test is positive, the next step is to visit your Ob-Gyn to confirm you’re actually pregnant. Once your doctor confirms you’re pregnant as well, you’ll need to plan what you want to do. Don’t just make a quick decision, think about all of the possible outcomes. Hash it out with your partner. This one-time decision will have an effect on both of your lives.

Here’s a breakdown of the 3 choices you have:

Become a mother: Being a single mom is hard, and a life-long commitment. Although parenting a child while you are young is extremely difficult for many reasons, you should look into all your options, including the benefits and the realistic challenges of parenting.  By talking with counselors and other women who have chosen parenting, you will better understand this choice.

Abortion: this is a tough decision to have to make, and there are several things you should think about before choosing abortion. Keep in mind your physical and mental health. If you’re dating but not ready to become a mom yet, you need to make sure to talk abortion over with your boyfriend. Abortion should be a decision you both make. If you do choose it, make sure you know all you can about abortion before going through it.

Adoption: The choices with open adoption today will allow your baby to grow up knowing they are loved by both their adoptive parents and by you. It allows you to make the decisions you want to about your pregnancy, delivery, and your baby’s future. You may even choose the adoptive family you want and visit your child if you wish!

As with all your options, fully exploring the adoption process will give a clear picture and help you make the right choice. Counselors, adoptive parents and other birth mothers are available to help you get a better understanding of adoption. Visiting an adoption company’s website is a great place to start as well.

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